Monday, September 29, 2014

Dating Profiles Dos and Don'ts {The Search for Charming}

Dating can be rough - putting your best face forward on first dates, being prepared with sparkling conversation - but it should be easier online, right?  You create a profile full of great information about yourself and throw up an awesome picture.  Easy, right?
Well, people can screw up anything.  Here are 16 DOs and DON'Ts for your online dating profile.

1. DO fill out your whole profile. 

It doesn't take long and it shows you put some thought in to it.

2. DON'T use a picture of you with a child as your main profile picture unless it is YOUR child. 

If it's your kid - that's awesome and cute and great.   If the kid in the picture is your niece, nephew, cousin or sibling - include it in your pictures, just not as your main picture.  If the kid in the picture isn't related to you, don't use the picture at all.  I'm sorry, it's creepy.

3. DO use correct grammar, spelling and complete sentences.  

It matters.  Sure, not everyone reading your profile is going to care, but chances are those people aren't very bright.

4. DON'T talk about how lame you think online dating is. 

You're here, aren't you?  Get over it.

5. DO keep things positive! 

If you click with someone, there will be plenty of time for you to complain* while your match is emailing you or you're texting or you're face to face.  Just keep it off of your profile...
*Please note I'm not suggesting you complain regularly at all... but if that's your thing, that's your thing.

6. DON'T use your profile to rant about the terrible experience you've had so far.  

Look, we all know online dating can be crappy and that a lot of terrible people are on these sites, but we don't need to talk about it on our profiles.

7. DO be original. 

If you aren't original, be funny.  If you aren't funny, just be you.  Mostly, be you.

8. DON'T use LOL or other text speak anywhere in your profile. 

Honestly, unless you're a 16 year old girl, don't.  And if you are a 16 year old girl, why do you have an online dating profile?

9. DO smile in your profile picture. 

EVERYONE looks better when they smile.  It's a fact.

10. DON'T post pictures that you had to blur or crop out someone. 

Come on.  We're always going to assume the person blurred or cropped is your ex.  It doesn't matter how good you look in the picture. Use a different one.

11. DO talk about things you like to do and are passionate about.  

How are any of us supposed to navigate through the online dating world if we don't learn anything about each other?

12. DON'T post pictures of you with other girls/guys. 

It doesn't make you look cool to have a million pictures of you surrounded by members of the opposite sex.

13. DO answer the personality questions. 

They're fun and you can learn a lot about people.

14. DON'T answer the personality questions that have correct answers if you don't know the answer.

Here's a freebie. The answer to this question from OKCupid, "In the line “Wherefore art thou Romeo?,” what does “wherefore” mean?" is WHY.  Wherefore means why.

15. DO be candid in what you're looking for. 

If you want an athlete, say that.  If you need someone who likes to cook, say that.  If someone who lays around in their pajamas most of Sunday is unacceptable, say that!

16. DON'T use any of these as your profile picture.

These are REAL pictures from actual profiles... all of them were the primary photo.  

I mean... holy crap.

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